As I write this my neck is sore.
I recently started Brazilian Jiu Jitsu and some dude squeezed my head with his knees so hard I thought my head was going to explode.
After about 5 classes this was the first class where I felt the reality of having no control.
During my sabbatical, I read a book called Breath by James Nestor.
This is a must read for every business owner and honestly any person that breathes.
It basically tells you how destructive mouth breathing is and how healthy nose breathing is.
I was a mouth breather.
I am now a nose breather.
While this dude was trying to crush my head with his knees, I initially went into panic mode.
As the pressure increased, I realized using force was not going to work…so I went to my breathing.
I used my nose and was able to stay calm and escape.
As a BJJ newbie it was my first mini victory.
Not because I escaped…because I stayed calm under pressure.
I was so glad I went, it felt amazing.
But I was very close to NOT going that night.
I have a goal this year to attend 78 BJJ classes.
That is exactly 1.5 classes per week.
My low back has been sore and I started telling Vanessa (my wife) how I think I was going to give it a few more days to let my back heal.
The look on her face was all I needed.
She knew my goal of 78x and knew it was January 4th and I had not yet attended a class.
The truth was…. not going that night would have put me behind the pace.
She didn’t make me feel bad about it but it was a nice combination of..
“You should go” and “Don’t be such a baby”.
My low back had been sore all day but when I got to class there was no pain.
I went through the class totally fine and my back feels better than it did before.
What a shame it would have been if I didn’t go.
But now my neck hurts!
Here’s the lesson.
You need people in your corner that will tell you the truth.
The truth was my back was fine and I was looking for an excuse.
I knew that but it was my wonderful wife that gave me the little nudge I needed.
One of my biggest roles as a business coach is to be a truth teller.
I have the hard job of telling people things they don’t want to hear.
While everyone around them is pumping them up and tiptoeing around them…
…. I must stay true to what they need most and help them realize the…brutal facts they face in their business.
- You need to raise your prices
- You need to fire your best team member
- You need to stop micromanaging and get out of the way
- You need to stop procrastinating and open the second location already
- You need to beef up your dangerously low cash cushion
This is what Vanessa did for me.
And this is what I’d love to do for you…for 12 months…totally free.
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Grinding is easy…making hard decisions is not…getting the courage to allow someone to be real with you is the hardest of them all